I want him to be happy but we have young children and sex feels like a chore. What should I do?I have been married for three years and no longer have any sexual desire. I am deeply in love, but my husband says I have stopped initiating physical intimacy and he hasn’t felt wanted for a long time. We have very young children, so I am exhausted all the time. He fantasises about exotic romps whereas I dream of a hot meal, shower and a nap. I don’t have any support from family or friends for our children, let alone myself, but I really want my husband to be happy and satisfied. Every time he brings up sex, it feels like just one more thing on my list of chores, and it’s always late at night when I’m trying to sleep. I thought I was having difficulty juggling life with kids, but he insists I’ve been pulling away ever since we got married. My family disowned me when I decided to get married, and I would be lying if I said that we had an easy-going relationship, but there is mad love here. ...
The article discusses a woman's struggle with a lack of sexual desire in her marriage, exacerbated by exhaustion from caring for young children. Her husband feels neglected and has suggested a threesome, which she finds unacceptable. Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a psychotherapist, advises the woman to explain her situation to her husband, seek his patience, and suggest he help with childcare. She also encourages the woman to ask her husband about his feelings regarding the changes in their relationship since having children.
