We used to have sex once a week on a Sunday, but since the menopause there has been no choice but to abstain. What can I do?My wife and I are in our late 50s, have been married for 20 years and have two children. Our sex life dwindled for a while, then ground to a halt around three years ago. When we were younger, I was very much in love with her and willing to live with our very different levels of sexual need and adventurism. Sleeping together happened almost exclusively on Sunday nights in the dark. She has always found sex in any position other than missionary to be painful. She finds oral sex to orgasm “disgusting” and since the menopause hit there has been no alternative but to abstain. I have a healthy sex drive and want to have what I would regard as a normal sex life again. In addition, we have a very different sense of humour and have often argued. I am the one who has initiated talking about our problems and we have had couples counselling, but it was inconclusive (I beli...
A couple in their late 50s, married for 20 years with two children, has not had sex in three years. The wife, who has gone through menopause, finds sex painful and uncomfortable, particularly in any position other than missionary, and dislikes oral sex. The husband has a strong libido and desires a normal sex life. They have tried couples counseling but did not address their sexual issues directly. The husband feels guilty for wanting more and considers the possibility of separation. The advice suggests addressing the menopause-related issues, exploring sex therapy, and fostering open communication to understand each other’s needs and challenges.
