2 h. ago 'We had no time with our kids so we ditched UK for Mauritius after holiday there'

Adam Short, 44, and his wife, Tara, 38, from Sheffield, South Yorkshire, were desperate for a 'slower pace of life' and decided to move 6,000 miles to Mauritius to feel more like a family

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47 h. ago You can’t just press ‘undo’ on your life. To move forward, you must first feel your grief and rage

Many of us try to reframe our disappointments, to put a happy face on sad circumstances. But the path to growth is paved with difficult emotions, and we have to experience them honestlyI hope you had a good summer: I did not. On the day we were supposed to be going on holiday, I was sitting in A&E with my husband, waiting for him to have urgent but routine surgery, which meant our travel plans had to be cancelled.From this experience I learned something valuable, all over again, about how hard it is for me to feel bad when things go wrong. I’m not talking about life-altering traumas, but the more everyday, quietly devastating disappointments that – unless we can actually feel them – will really weigh us down. Continue reading...

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3 d. ago Woman's skin burns, cracks and bleeds from simple British weather change

Rosie Daniels, 25, tried multiple treatments to try and bring an end to the agonising pain brought about by her plaque psoriasis - but it was only when she made a major life change that she started to feel some relief

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5 d. ago I have a crippling fear of being judged. How can I overcome this? | Leading questions

Is it worth paying with your life to avoid being mocked, asks advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Practice valuing your own judgments as much as other people’sRead more Leading questionsI have a crippling fear of judgment and being perceived negatively. Having grown up in a household where mockery was the norm, I believe this has left a lasting mark on my psyche which has resulted in me being afraid to act for fear of mockery, scorn or negative judgment. I feel this has severely stunted my social and romantic life, preventing me from making lasting friendships and relationships. I’m keen to break from this but the gnawing fear holds me back. I spend my non-working days and hours cooped up in my house and alone. Crucially, this fear does not overcome me when I’m working and in fact I’m comfortable leading large groups of people and meeting new people. I believe this is because when I’m at work I know where I stand and I have a specific objective in mind. However, in my personal li...

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7 d. ago Jos Buttler: ‘A big burden has been lifted – I wasn’t the same leader after the 2023 World Cup’

The England white-ball veteran on his post-captaincy career, his Ashes struggles and the recent death of his fatherAnother summer is over and, for Jos Buttler, life and cricket feel more precious than ever. The fleeting nature of both has been accentuated by the loss of Buttler’s father, John, after his unexpected death in August. The 35-year-old will soon talk movingly about grief and acceptance but, first, he reflects on his venerable place in white-ball cricket after England’s international summer ended in a low-key series in Ireland.Buttler opened the batting and Jacob Bethell and Rehan Ahmed, who followed him at three and four in the opening match, are both 21. But he had proved his sustained brilliance a few weeks earlier when, against South Africa, he hit 83 off 30 balls in a blistering knock that helped England to become the first team to pass 300 in a T20 international. Continue reading...

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8 d. ago Freed Madeleine McCann suspect Christian Brueckner calls for ‘witch hunt’ against him to stop

German national Christian Brueckner said he wanted the prosecutor to give him his ‘life back’ and that he still did not ‘feel free’

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9 d. ago Racist voices are becoming louder and moving into the mainstream. How can I help my client feel safe? | Ahona Guha

Within the context of increasing anti-migrant and anti-Muslim rhetoric, Aisha found that she was hyper-vigilant and anxious about the possibility of another assaultThe modern mind is a column where experts discuss mental health issues they are seeing in their workAs far-right and anti-immigration influences take hold across the globe, people of colour are often struggling to know where they might feel safe. Encountering occasional racism has been a fact of life for people of colour in most countries in the west. Emboldened by the far-right movements, racist voices are now becoming louder and moving into the mainstream.One of the emergent themes within the therapy room has involved a resurgence of racial trauma, especially for those who have previously experienced significant such harm. Continue reading...

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1 week ago Five Great Reads: a stroke while swimming, Matthew McConaughey, and 10 endangered British puddings

Guardian Australia’s weekend wrap of essential reads from the past seven days, selected by Claire KeenanGet this in your inbox every weekend. Sign up for Five Great Reads here.Happy Saturday readers. How does it feel to go back to enjoy the place where your life was last at risk? This is a question that our first read, and a dear colleague of mine, grapples with. His answer hides in the value of human connection. There are actually a lot of good humans in this week’s newsletter. Do enjoy. Oh – and thank you for being here. Continue reading...

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